I completely agree with you...Yes, there are some circumstances where benefits really help people and they are desperate and need it and use it wisely - YAY them!

But we are paying for chavs, whose kids wander round smashing up shops, thieving from our houses n abusing anyone who walks near them - that's what you get for thanks. 

IT's ok though, because the government don't have to face reality.

Hannah

xxxxxxx

Oh how I remember those times. What time does he get up in the morning? If he gets up around 7am give him breakfast and play with him till l1am. Give him lunch @ 11 and put him down or a nap around 12. Let him only sleep till 130-200 at the most! Give him some snacks and then dinner by 5. From 5pm till 8pm play with him and give him a bath close to 8. Feed him, change him and put him down for bed. It took me a bit but finally we both got on a schedule and he knew not to hit and bite.

The key is when he takes a nap, don't let it run into the late afternoon. Get him on a schedule that you and he will feel comfortable with. It takes time and certainly don't let him sleep with you!!!! You will regret it.

Good luck.

I wish I knew something better than letting them cry it out, but I don't. It's a method that I had no choice but to use because I was working a full time job and needed my sleep, so I couldn't stay up with him all night, no matter how much he fussed.

What I would do is feed him, change him, and put him down for the night. Then I would go to bed, put on white noise, and set my alarm for three hours. When my clock went off, I would get up and start the whole process over again. Feed him, change him, put him back to bed. Set my alarm, etc.

It took me about six months to train him, and it worked wonders because he's never had any problems sleeping through the night. I know it sounds heartless, but it's something that needs to happen. It's better for the child in the long run, because they have excellent sleep patterns when you train them in this manner.

LoL!

I know what you are talking about. my girlfriend just had a son two weeks ago and she does the same thing. you see, when you hold your baby, he gets used to falling asleep to your heartbeat and thats why he wakes up when you put him down. Anyways, yes that is new mom syndrome. lol. She misses that thing we call sleep too. Also the worry of not being able to hear him. lol. all moms are alike. I try to help her out as much as possible. Maybe you should try to stay there for a while and slowly move back to your room with your hubby. Let the baby gradually get used to not having you there. otherwise he will be sixteen years old and moms still asleep on the floor of his room. lol.

Good luck with that sleep thing, and best wishes to you nd your family.

That deserves applause. I lied. That deserves a standing, f***ing, ovation. Lol if you could see me i'd stand up and clap but alas, all i can do is type *applause*.

That's one hell of a week.  

I'm sorry things are so crazy (and painful) right now. I hope they get better soon.

~Love Mystic

i LOVE It!!!

:)

i love it very much! But are you really a mom?

I really want to be a mom, everytime i thouht i was pregnant. But i can't have a baby, i am not ready yet. The things you wrote makes me think twice before I do abortion. I want to be a mom!

wow it's beautiful1 i dnt have any kids but you make it seem great! i'm sure theres hard times but it's the little things that are great that make everything worth it! thanks for sharing that!

*angelbaby*

He sounds like a perfectly reasonable baby. I would keep giving him what he needs until he's ready to ween. When you have another baby, you can put them together in their own room. Kids don't like to sleep alone, it's not natural.

That's just me and my highfaluting theories.

have you tried different nipples on the bottle?  there are many that are designed to feel like the shape of the mom.

on him sleeping in your bed...i'd break that as soon as possible.  i had issues with my youngest sleeping with me, and i allowed it for far too long.  when it came time to put my foot down, it was much harder than it needed to be.  if i'd taught her from the start, it would have been much easier both baby and me.  plus...it just seems mean to let them think that's they are supposed to sleep with you when at some point you uproot their whole security, because you get tired of it.  i felt awful...it wasn't her fault.  it was mine.

i breastfed four babies...but i never weaned them to bottles...so i don't have much info there.  i nursed my kids until a year old, when they went straight to milk out of sippy cups.

Try a car ride.

Nikki

There's a saying that God only gives you what you can handle.

It would be nice for your son though, to have another child to play and interact with at home. It's nice when your older too, you know. Like with me and my little sister. We were always close as kids and still are. I don't know where I'd be without her. It's just nice to know that your not the only one. When the weather's poo outside and you have to stay in and play it's great to have another kid play with you. It's not the same when it's an adult. Adults just don't get it sometimes.

It's also good as tests have shown that children with brothers and sisters are more sociable and find it easier to make new friends. Esspecially at nursery age.

But if your happy with one, then that's your choice. I agree with what your saying about not being able to afford another child and it's fair enough. A very good point. If people are getting on your case about it then you should tell them to have more of their own and stop worrying about your life.

Sam x

sometimes people have to make really tough decisions... My life has taken a turn for the worst and you can see that in my last couple of entries.

good luck, and i hope that everything else goes well for you!

keep in mind that in the end, you have your family, and us here on MDD!!!

Peace!

when I re-read the first part of my diary...I realized I belonged with T.

Now I'm going to look over some of my quotes...what an interesting thing to do!

Day care isn't always the answer -it can be a false economy , it costs money to send your child there and besides, you have a small child. My daughter is three, she goes two mornings a week but I didn't start her there until she could walk. Sometimes you have to weigh up the sacrifices. I'm expecting my second baby and my partner's working a lot of overtime at the moment. Maybe chat to Tim and ask him why he thinks you need him to work another job. You don't want him to run himself ragged either.

I don't know if you'll be able to do this now as you say Josh is too big, but when we transitioned my daughter out of sleeping in her carseat (she just wouldn't sleep ANYWHERE else and it was becoming a serious problem), my partner put it inside the crib/cot for a while and she gradually adjusted to a bigger space, before being asked to actually sleep in it by itself. I think the larger space can sometimes be offputting to children when they've been used to a more enclosed "cosy" area. The other thing you could try is putting in something that smells like you into the cot, like one of your t shirts or something and trying to create the illusion that the crib is smaller than it is. I don't know if I've been any help here, but hope something works for you!!

Wow I wouldnt be putting up with that, not ever!

I took care of my cousins wifes kid with another guy because they coudlnt get their heads outta their butts and be responsible enuf to go out and get jobs to take care of him. I had Dylan for 3 months, and they didnt even bother to call when I hadent called in a few days, they didnt and dont care about dylan.

I had to come to my sences, and call cps on them because if I didnt do anything about it, I was enableing them to do the things that they were doing and I couldnt do it anymore. my son is 3 yrs old, and I am not use to having a baby rely on me like that, and with me working and everything, I just coudlnt do it anymore. I was wore out. I was only suppose to have him 3 or 4 days a week, withthe weekends off, but when it was their turn... they were no where to be found. and if they did take him, then i would get him back all pissy and without any clean clothes when I sent around 10 outfits for the weekend. I just couldnt deal with it anymore. I had to do what I did because they werent getting jobs or anything they were living off my parents and doind drugs and when I took Dylan in it was to be a part time thing, until they coudl get jobs and save up enuf money to actually more out on their own... they still havent moved out!

Peace!

When I read your message, I was bothered deeply...First I've been a foster for 6 years and I've had several children in my home due to abuse, and it is very sad...and their small children also, and it has affected them greatly at such am early age.....We have even adopted a little girl, and Thank God, she didn't have to do through the mental or physical abuse like her siblings did, one of her sisters is actually in a mental hospital due to what she went through, and she is only 13, no child should have to go through the things your sister-in-law is putting them through, but there is hope for those children especially since they are so young, and there are people that do care and can change their lives for good....If you don't call I will, please, write me back. My email is jealro24@yahoo.com and tell me what state and where the sister-in-law lives....

you should make sure that he is up from around 6-9 straight, put him to bed around that time.... and he should sleep a little better for you...

he needs to have a day and night schedule. he shoudl sleep more at night then during the day... if you dont start early, they will never develop that skill.

my son never did, and it took me until he was 10 monhts before he started sleeping throughout the night.

start him early and it should help you out alot also.... if you want to, before bed time, put a little rice in his bottle, and it might help him to sleep longer periods of time.

I know what your going to say, that the dr said not to... well when my son started using cereal at night, he was sleeping 4 hours instead of 2 hours every night, and he started eating foods at 5WEEKS old.

just keep your head out for different opinions, keep trying them, until you find the one that works best for you guys.....

and just so you knwo, the doctors arent ALWAYS right.....

love ya,

Rachelle

when I was 3 I climbed into my brothers crib, with my best friend Robin S. who was 4! The baby Andy, who btw is 50 today, was in the middle.

We sat in the crib with our legs surrounding him. He too remained totally unphased..while my Mother had a melt down. I remember, cause I was the kid she hit...not hard..I survived too!

been there, i still wake up to the tiniest noise and run to the baby's room to check on him...i have been told that when he gets older, i will get more sleep...he's sixteen months now and i am not there yet...good luck!

hey are you pregnant?? leave me a comment back on my diary or u can e-mail me at hot_gurl_4_u692002@yahoo.com

thanks

ashley

You could let someone brag again lol, that might help

[someonesprincess]

wow girl. you better be takin it easy! when I was prego, I was so scared that I was going to go into labor at school, and everyone was going to see my water break, and that was the most horrifying thing ever. I couldnt imagine going into labor early!

take it easy girl      Rachelle

Honey, there isnt really anything you can do. My son will be 3 on the 23rd of this month, and let me tell u what, I never felt so alone while I was pregnant! Steve worked and I went to school, he didnt really act like he was happy for the baby inside of me. I knew that he meant well, but he just didnt want to show it. There really isnt a way to include him into everything, but just try to include him in as much as possible.He let his mom scream at me, calling me lazy while I was pregnant, and honest to say, I still hold that grudge! I still hold a grudge for the way he let his mom treat me while I was pregnant with his child! He will come around once that baby is born, because let me tell u what, while I was giving birth, Steve was pushin too! lol

Rachelle

I'm 16.. 4 months.

Yeah I know, I hate hormones that make me crabby. I get so impatient and just want to rip every piece of my hair out.. I feel so hopeless like "Oh my god, what did I get myself into?!?" Then other days, I'm so excited. It's chaotic.

-adriana

[addiejade]

www.abraham-hicks.com

I know what you mean

Wow, your diary entry sounds plenty depressing. Sorry about that. Good luck with your pregnancy though.

Also read the comment you left in my diary,the day I said I was going to stop eating. I appreciate the tip you told me about dieting. Much thanks.

-Roxanne

Hey- Well I was reading a couple of your entries and I feel the exact same way about my baby! It's like, you look down at your womb and to know that there is a little human in there that you've created is the best feeling in the world. Like you already love your unborn baby more than life itself... So how far along are you?

Pregnancy makes you crabby. He should know that.. It's not your fault. Hang in there.

Take care*

-adriana

Tht was SOO deep, and YOUR really good with words. Awwh..your having a baby?! Congrats!!! I'm sure ull b a great mother!

Much Luv!!  CrazybyChance92

Sound like valid complaints to me. You can start just cooking just for yourself/yourself + hubby, if they bitch and moan tune it out. They need to learn to be more grateful/appreciative/helpful.  :P

You can also buy a cabinet with a lock on it to keep your personal posessions in so they dont get used by others. Same with snacks and such also.

"being told that we are out of milk." Just respond "So go buy some." or just "So?" heheh.

Sounds like you live with a bunch of people who never outgrew their teens. But you don't have to put up with all of it.

hey girl, its been a while since I was on MDD.... so I lost track of everyone.... How far along are you now? good thinking with not lending anyone money.... if you read my entry from today....u will discover that we are thinking the same... lol

Rachelle

Jude, like in hey jude by the beatles.  or maybe andrew or tyler

how far along are you? how old are you?

I was 17 when i got pregnant, and i amm 20 now, my son is 2 1/2 and its been the best experience of my life!

No need....As I tell everyone...carry him in your heart and talk to him when ever you choose. AbrahamHicks.com  Death is a transition

You helped make his a whole lot easier. be proud of yourself

Paul Simon

Beatles

Billy Joel

Los Lonely Boys

Toni Braxton

Lucy Kaplansky

I need to move on!

Seasons Greetings!

this is how it is with Ben and me!

The other night...I was wathcing as he was Sleep Talking?Walking...and I thought..what would I do if he ever left...well same as you..it would kill me!